I just finished watching "Independence Day" on HBO. I first saw this movie in 1996 when it had just come out. Kevin wanted to go to the Almeda theater because it had the new stadium seating.
Kevin, his dad and I drove out to the Almeda theater. We all loved science fiction. The aliens were attacking earth. The president's wife got fatally wounded. The president acted like he really loved her and would miss her.
I realized at that moment that my husband would have been very happy if I died. He didn't love me. He wouldn't miss me. It was quite a blow. I knew my marriage was failing but the contrast with that portrayal of a happy marriage hurt me so much. I cried from that moment on through the movie. On the way home I sat in the back seat so I could cry. When we got home, I got my car keys and drove to my friend, Susin's house. I cried some more. This was July 1996.
My husband told me he was looking for an apartment and would move out. I told him that I would move out. I knew I couldn't afford that big house. I started looking. He wanted to know the cost. He said he could find cheaper apartments. That was the last straw. The next day I drove to my lawyer's office and signed the divorce papers. They had already been drawn up but I hadn't been ready yet.
I served him the divorce papers myself.
I thought that I had found real love with Jim. We were going to be married the rest of our lives. Then he hurt me so badly, so much worse than my first husband had.
It's unbelievable to me that I still enjoy men's company. I have a fence around my heart now. I never want to get married again and chance more pain. But, I don't want to be alone either.
Now, I'm thinking of moving to Portland OR. I'm flying out to visit Kevin there tomorrow. I'll be looking at apartments, houses. It will be a new life. I have no one to share it with. I can't afford to bring Bert with me. It would necessitate a bigger place to live.
Another stage in life. It may be the last new stage in my life. I have no idea what the future holds. Why bother thinking about the future? Life can change totally at any moment.